About Us
A lot of people have been asking me about how it all began… So, I decided to share our story. Our journey with this lifestyle started a few years ago…
We were a regular couple who loved each other. We were living together happily, but one day, he confessed a secret: he loved BDSM and craved becoming a dominant partner. (Yes, he wanted to rule!)
At first, he wanted to dominate me, but I wasn’t convinced. Some gentle and kinky play was fun, but I didn’t want to feel fear or pain. We tried different scenarios, but he always wanted to move toward more serious stuff, while I wanted it to stay soft. It wasn’t working.
We had many conversations about it, trying to find a balance, understanding each other’s boundaries, and navigating the complexities of power dynamics. It wasn’t easy. There were moments of frustration, confusion, and even arguments. But we kept talking, learning, and experimenting. One day, everything changed…
He proposed a new idea: a Female Led Relationship (FLR). It felt more in line with my comfort zone and was still exciting for him. We began testing different BDSM toys, punishments, bondage, spanking, and more. It still wasn't perfect, there were ups and downs. We had days where we felt connected and passionate, and days where we questioned if we were even compatible. We’d take breaks from the kink, returning to vanilla life. Traveling, working, having normal conversations, and enjoying simple moments. But no matter how long the break, we always wanted to return to the dirty games.
The next step was the chastity cage. We’d seen some online and decided to try. Our first one was a pink, plastic cage that was easy to escape from, but it was a powerful reminder of who the queen was. It had its downsides, but it taught me a lot about control, trust, and communication. Over time, we experimented with a lot of cages: cheap, expensive, plastic, steel, pink, black, short, long, etc. (😓😩 Finding the right one is a really hard task!)
Time was passing, and we were slowly growing in our roles. I was becoming more dominant, and my husband more submissive, but back then, we were still treating it as “playtime,” until one incident changed everything…
One day, I came home earlier and caught him watching porn. Worse, his penis was out of the cage and hard. It turned out he was able to pull it out while soft, cum, and then put it back. I was furious because he’d been insisting on all of that and now he was lying to me. This was the reason I decided to go for a PA piercing. (PS: Now we’re laughing about that situation, because it was quite funny to see him terrified trying to hide his hard dick into a small cage!)
We’d heard about PA before, it was interesting and provided total security, but we thought it was a little too extreme for “just kinky play.” It turned out to be a great decision. After the piercing healed, I ordered a custom stainless steel chastity cage with a PA hook. And now everything changed. It turned out that while he can’t cum without my permission, he’s more obedient, more considerate, more polite and always ready to serve. What’s important is that he stopped talking back, which had been happening from time to time. Now I know why 😅
Since then, time in chastity has become longer and longer to the point where I can’t name it “playtime” anymore. Now it’s our lifestyle. We both love it, and we’re still learning and exploring every aspect of it. And all of that bring us here where we’ve started sharing our journey
I hope you liked the story and maybe even someone will be inspired to take the first step on their journey. 😉